When two people fall madly in love, the brain’s pleasure centres are activated causing the release of few chemicals-dopamine, pheromones and serotonin. These chemicals are directly responsible for excitement, increased heart rate, lack of appetite and sleeplessness.
The greatest gift you can give someone is the space to be his or herself, without the threat of you leaving.
why is it that everyone can be an asshole towards me and that’s perfectly fine but the minute i have had enough and act like an asshole its all of a sudden not okay
You would feel hurt and cheated. You would endlessly compare yourself to the person they chose over you. You’ll become someone you hardly recognize and do things you are not proud of. Then after a very long time, you’ll start to feel like yourself again. You will see things from a different perspective and eventually (I know it probably sounds ludicrous to you right now) you will be thankful for the experience. Because someone else will come to you and tell you this exact story and instead of saying things like, ‘well if you really had any genuine feelings, you wouldn’t have waited.’ Or ‘You were never officially together so what’s the big deal?’ Instead of these things you can say, ‘I know it hurts and it probably will for a very long time. Sometimes it will be unbearable and soon your friends are going to be sick to death of hearing about it so it will be your burden to carry alone. But you will come through the other side as a more compassionate and empathetic soul. In the end, it will make you a better person.’
Sometimes people think they know you. They know a few facts about you, and they piece you together in a way that makes sense to them. And if you don’t know yourself very well, you might even believe that they are right. But the truth is, that isn’t you. That isn’t you at all.